Family Relations Week 3

No Family Is Perfect!

Having a perfect family means no negative problems or situations in the family. Every family member is perfect and will never be angry at each other. That is an awesome family to be part of. However, there are some families out there today that are not doing too well. There are some families in the world that are living in abusive homes, doing drugs and alcohol, dealing with unemployment, and having family relationship problems. Children who live with parents that are not getting along with each other, tend to cause the children to think it is their fault that the parents are fighting and the children will feel anxiety at home. Negative family situations will cause family members not to feel peace at home and not to feel loved by family members. Some may have depression, and have trouble imagining what families are supposed to be. This will create negative feedback in the family that will make the children think love isn’t enough for them. This is why we need family therapists today. They can understand the families’ problems and know information and how the situation all started. A family therapist can help regulate parents and children’s emotions, and what family situations hurt them the most. For example, if I was family therapist and I’m sitting across from family members that are going through not getting along with each other, I will do whatever I can to understand each of them, where they are coming from and what they are feeling inside, and give them advice on how to fix it.

It’s important for family therapists to ask each family member questions. Family therapist need to figure out what questions they can truthfully ask the family members that are going through serious problems, like losing a job, doing drugs and alcohol, and having trouble with the law. Here are the questions that you can ask a family member from the “Genograms in Family System” that my classmates and I read for homework before class. “Has anyone in the family had a serious medical or psychological problem? Been depressed? Had anxieties? Fears? Lost control? Has there been physical or sexual abuse? Are there any other problems that worry you? Have there been any recent job changes? Unemployment? How do you like your job? Do you think any members drink too much or have a drug problem? Have any family members ever been arrested? For what? When?” (Page 37). Those questions will help the family therapist know what to do to help the family members and how to get the family to be happy and healthy again. If all the family members keep going to family therapy, it will help them to know how to become a better family and solve their problems and understand each other.

I know deep down that not all families are perfect. There will be times when you have arguments, don’t agree on something, or don’t want to be around each other. However, I know all families can work out their problems and forgive each other. It is important to work together as a team with your family and love them no matter what. Heavenly Father gave us families for a reason; to teach us how to forgive and love one another. Families in the world today should make a goal to fill their homes with peace, love, happiness, joy, and health. This will bring positive feedback to the children and the parents.